Birds of a feather will flock together.  You know a man by the company he keeps…

These truisms are much more than “we hang out with people who are like us” because what tends to happen is we become MORE like the people we choose to associate with.

So what area do you want to have more confidence in?

Even if you are the type of person who “wants to soar with the eagles but are surrounded by turkeys” you can choose good learning materials – books, recordings, DVD’s and through those materials start to associate with others who have confidence and competency in whatever area you want to do well in.

That part about competency is real important by the way.

You don’t want to shoot rifles at a battle tank just because you’re “confident” you can do it.  That sort of stupidity causes people to go splat when they get run over.

So who has confidence in the area you want to gain confidence?  Start to hang out with them, if possible.  If not, get their books, recordings, videos and STUDY them and start to do what that expert does.

You can also use mental programming to go to your mental laboratory and invite in “mental counselors” to ask for advice at level on how to become more confident and competent at whatever skills you wish to master.

Remember, though, that mental practice is meant to IMPROVE your physical actions – not take the place of them!

So if you want to be more confident around women, for example, you still got to go out in the real world and get some REAL experience and talk with women!

If you want to be more confident with closing sales, you STILL have to go talk to the customer!

But the mental programming will help you rehearse your success ahead of time in “known” types of situations and even in “unknown” types of situations.

One time I wanted to know how to have a more hypnotic effect on women, so I went to my mental laboratory and mentally ‘asked’ Milton Erickson for help with that project.

Soon after that I started getting the effect I wanted.

Then I went back and learned the step by step processes to make what I learned work even better!

(I cover that neat hypnosis tactic I learned in one of my courses – “How To Get Virtually Any Woman’s Undivided Attention In Just 30 Seconds Or Less!”)

Do you want to have more courage under pressure?  Read good inspirational stories of people who have done that.  Or get their audio book and play it on the way to and from work.

Do you want to make more money?  Start reading and listening to materials from people who are competent at making money and who have the type of confidence that comes from experience.

By the way, “SELF-CONFIDENCE” doesn’t necessarily mean the “alpha male” type of B.S. a lot of people are trying to tell you is necessary.

I rememeber seeing Richard Marcinko (retired Navy SEAL) and Erik Haney (retired special forces) on different news stations giving interviews about counter-terrorism, and while they have different personalities, you can tell by looking at them they are highly confident AND COMPETENT at what they do.

You don’t have to be the loud obnoxious jerk or the extroverted “life of the party.”

It’s like my friend Ross Jeffries says that confidence is more about knowing whatever comes along in life, you know you can handle it.  It’s about a recognition on the inside that you are in charge of your life, and you know how to live life on your own terms regardless of what is going on around you.

So you start with awareness of where you are, where do you want to go, and then it’s also real helpful if you can find others you can study and learn with and from.

Remember most associations we have with people happen through default.

You’re friends with the people you went to school with or grew up next to or work with.

Seldom does someone stop to think “Hey, this is MY life here!  What kind of people and influences do I want to be around?”

But you can bet the most successful people in life do just that!

By the way, if you’d like more information on how to use “Mind Control” methods to improve your life, I’ve got a great bunch of friends you might like to hang out with.

They’re at my friend John La Tourrette’s yahoo group Mindmastery-essentialskills .

The important thing to remember is to be aware of where you are, what you want, and start to take action to get there!

If you’d like more tips on how to improve your confidence, INCLUDING two of the fastest methods on the planet to build self confidence then check out my new downloadable course at www.improvingconfidence.com

I’ll see you there!

Sincerely,
Jim Knippenberg
ESP & Mind Control Trainer
www.mindcontrolresources.com
www.improvingconfidence.com

Simple, but not always easy because those beliefs already there might be deep-seated convictions to some people.

People will fight to the death before they abandon their “convictions.”

But when you stop and consider there are things about yourself that used to be true that are no longer true – maybe you used to live at such and such an address, and now you live somewhere else.  Or maybe you used to have one type of car and now you drive something else – those things that are “true” about us are subject to change.

The good news is you can change your beliefs about yourself.  Even more easily than you can change your address.

WHEN you know how.

Oftentimes, though, people wish they could build self confidence in some area of their life, but they’re “stuck” in the past emotions of “Well, I’ll never have the type of woman I want anyway, because so-and-so didn’t like me” or “I got laid off or fired from my job, and so I’ll never have a good job ever again.”

It doesn’t really make sense, but it’s not “logic” that makes beliefs for the most part – it’s strong emotion and conditioning.

But you CAN use your conscious mind to choose what you wish to believe about yourself, and you can start building self confidence  in ways that help you get where you want to go.

For instance, once you know where you want to go and in what areay you’d like to be building confidence, use energy tapping methods or mental programming methods to get rid of the negative belief systems holding you back, and then wire in the habits of thought and emotion that help support you toward the fulfillment of your goals.

For more information on building self-confidence, visit www.improvingconfidence.com

I’ll see you there!

Sincerely,
Jim Knippenberg
Mind Control & ESP Trainer
www.improvingconfidence.com
www.mindcontrolresources.com

In the Bible it says “If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth.”

What does that mean in practical terms though?

I can’t jump off a cliff and expect to land safely at the bottom.

But I can learn how to use a parachute, learn how to handle circumstances, learn how to have confidence and competency in whatever area I choose to set my goals.

A lot of people want the self-confidence, but they don’t want a dose of the real world along with it.

In the real world, there’s no such thing as something for nothing.

I don’t care what your favorite politician promissed at election time.

One of the best ways to build your self-confidence is to simply make a plan – a step, by step, well formed plan of what it is you want.

There’s an old saying “How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at a time!”

Someone else added to that “And you sell tickets to the dinner!” meaning that you take the task, and you use your available resources to get others involved in ways where they also get something of benefit AND you also get what you want.

A lot of guys want more self-confidence with women, for example.  One of the ways to have more self-confidence with women is to simply go get some skills that help you create good feelings with women that those women can’t find anywhere else.

I learned that one the hard way.  I was expecting GOD to just zap the ones I was interested in so they’d fall in love with me.

Well, see, the interesting thing is that as you go DO something in the real world to gain confidence in your abilities to communicate, you start to notice that all people everywhere have patterns of how they think, feel, and act.

And once you know the formulas, then you have basic confidence that you can get what it is you want in life.

If I follow the formula, I’m pretty sure I can bake a cake.  Some of them might come out better than others, some might not taste good, others might taste really good, but as long as I know cake-baking formulas, I can have a fairly high degree of self-confidence in my ability to bake a cake.

Some people make things too complicated for themselves.

They see a huge, insurmountable project, and they’re overwhelmed by it.

Break the project down in to smaller steps, smaller goals – like baking one cake at a time.

Anybody can do that.

Then as you gain more skill, you get faster, you get more efficient, you start to combine ingredients in ways others might not have thought of, and soon you have feedback on your growing skill level.

It’s the same in any area of life you want to improve your self-confidence.

And, by the way, even if it’s something you DON’T know how to do yet, if you’ve had any success at learning something that you didn’t know anything about (and we’ve ALL had that experience, many, many times!), then you can have confidence in your ability to LEARN and DO what’s important for you.

For more on how to quickly, rapidly, and easily improve your confidence, go to www.improvingconfidence.com !

I’ll see you there!

Sincerely,
Jim Knippenberg
Mind Control And ESP Trainer
www.improvingconfidence.com
www.mindcontrolresources.com

Here’s a classic example from Dr. Milton Erickson, one of the greatest hypnotists to ever live.

Someone asked Dr. Erickson to visit their aunt who was depressed, down in the dumps, and wanted to die.

Some people would have tried to get her to feel good about the fact that nobody liked her or came around to see her.

Some people would have CURSED her by getting her to feel good about her situation.

Instead, Erickson noticed the lady had African Violets in her house.

He talked to her about violets and told her to get some starter pots and make new violets by taking clippings and starting them in the new pots.

Then he told her to read the newspaper, and every time there was a wedding, graduation, birth, death, or any other type of significant event to take one of those new violets and send it to the person or their family.

Soon the lady had more friends than she knew what to do with.  She felt more confidence, had a better self-image, and improved self-esteem just because of a simple set of actions she took.

List 2 or 3 actions you could take that would help you to feel more confident and more in control of your life.

If you can’t think of any, imagine you’re talking to a friend and that friend is exactly like you in every way.  Tell that other friend you 2 or 3 things to do in order to feel more confidence.

Or you could do the energy blow out using my friend Dr. La Tourrette’s “Easy energy method” to blow out the unwanted emotions along with “Even though I don’t have any confidence, I choose to identify and act on something I can start to do right now that gives m more confidence and control over my life.

Have fun!  I will see you again in the next article!

Sincerely,
Jim Knippenberg
www.improvingconfidence.com

Sorry, folks, but the idea of “lower the standard” or do away with the standard all together so the underachievers can feel good about their lack of accomplishment won’t get you anywhere in life except down a dead end road.

“For lack of vision, the people perish” is just as valid today as when it was written hundreds of years ago in the Old Testament.

One of the ESSENTIAL SKILLS and ESSENTIAL INGREDIENTS of having more self confidence is to actually have a vision, a goal in life that is congruent with YOUR values and ideals.

Not your parents’ or friends’ or teachers’ criteria, values, and ideals, but your own!

Most people, somewhere between 25 and 35 years of age end up losing sight of their hopes and dreams and they’re just like a dead campfire – just cold ashes of what “could have been”.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

I really suggest you read Harry Browne’s book “How I Found Freedom In An Unfree World” as a good starting point.  Print copies of that book are sometimes hard to find, but it is now available as a pdf file for download.  Here’s the website you can order that book http://www.trendsaction.com/ 

I don’t make a dime by recommending that book to you.  I realize your political views might be different than Harry’s were, but it’s a real good thought provoking book.

I tend to be more of a conservative myself, but that book is absolutely priceless.

Then, once you learn how to free yourself from the belief and identity traps that most people don’t know about, I do have a real good course on how to achieve your goals.  I will tell you about it some other time.

For now, though, realize that if you’re going to improve your confidence, you MUST have a vision, a goal, a PURPOSE that you wish to accomplish.  Those with low confidence also have no expectations and no hope for the future.

GET A GOAL, A PURPOSE, A BURNING DESIRE, and FOCUS on it, while making sure it is congruent with YOUR values and higher ideals.

Most people want something for nothing, but the truth is 1) there’s no such thing as something for nothing, and 2) we’re ALL happier and more fulfilled when we’re working toward some purpose or goal and have something positive to look forward to.

I hope you’re enjoying the site so far and you want to stay tuned and on the look out for even more of these posts on how you can improve your self-confidence, your self-image, and self-esteem!

I’ll see you again on here real soon!  And if you haven’t gotten my course yet on Creating INSTANT Self Confidence, go to www.improvingconfidence.com and get it now!

To your success and improving self-confidence!

Jim Knippenberg
Mind Control & ESP Trainer
www.improvingconfidence.com
www.mindcontrolresources.com

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